Coming June 2021... a collection of my personal stories, Facebook stories and conversations that will help you spot the F*boy, the red flags and the guy not to get serious with.
I know you want better when it comes to men and setting boundaries, knowing yourself, understanding your worth and what makes a healthy relationship. I want you to know that I'm not that girl who believes all men are bad. That's not a fact, but what I am saying: most men shouldn't have access to you.
You know how it is, you meet a guy, he's so damn good looking, and you're excited because a man is hitting on you. You think to yourself; I got picked, and you're already thinking 'he could be the one.' Your feelings get all in the way of your judgment, and your ability to smell bullshit becomes clouded with butterflies. You then become the ant on the ground, and you can't see everything that is going on. Allow me to be your helicopter in the sky because sis, your vagina doesn't actually know if he's the one or not. Lean away from those butterflies.
Honestly, you may not even know what a 'red flag' is. You may have heard the Maya Angelou quote, "when people show you who they are, believe them," but what does that mean? It's way more profound than what I initially thought. I knew that I wouldn't date a drug addict or that I wouldn't date someone who had a problem with alcohol. That was easy. However, there are so many other red flags and character flaws to dodge. After all, 'narcissist' is a word I never heard of until 2017, or 'love bombing' or 'gaslighting.' Do you know the definitions of those words?
Don't worry, I got you, with examples. That's what this book is for! Remember, I'm here to help you adjust your crown and guide you into keeping your head on a swivel. Don't be embarrassed or feel stupid. No one ever talked to me about men either, leading me down a dark path of dating. I hope that my transparency helps you not make the same mistakes I made and learn from your mistakes. Plus, I want to help you forgive yourself, as I had to, as well.The advice in this book comes from my experiences and stories that I have heard, I don't know everything, and I'm not an expert. I just wanted to share with you in hopes you will make better decisions in your dating life. Date logically. Purpose before marriage.
My philosophy is; you don't fall in love. You choose to love. Choose wisely, and don't date these guys (in the book) from now on. As you're reading this book, please consider me your homegirl in your head.
Now who is the book for? You... You are a good woman. You’re the type of woman who gives your all to a man. You’re always trying to satisfy your man and go the extra mile... aren’t you? You’re so nice and kind — and you give the benefit of the doubt to men cause you want to see the good in him. You want that part of him to come out. But that hasn’t worked out for you.... has it? You believing in his potential and trying to stick it out with him is why — you’ve been burnt so many times. And I know you’ve hit the wall. You feel like you know what you want but you keep choosing the wrong guy. You see— I know you because I was you and you’ve been believing the lie that... 'this man' has the potential to be good for you. I know you’ve been wanting to work on yourself but you just have no idea where to start. Start with me.
Which is why I told you about my $10,000 boyfriend and my abusive ex. The dumb ass things I did for a man. 𝙄 𝙣𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙒𝘼𝙉𝙏 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚 𝙖 𝙥𝙧𝙞𝙫𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙛𝙖𝙞𝙡𝙪𝙧𝙚 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙖 “𝙥𝙪𝙗𝙡𝙞𝙘” 𝙨𝙪𝙘𝙘𝙚𝙨𝙨. Which is why I'm always working on ME because one thing is true ...all darkness comes to light.
I started this journey and at the beginning... I did it with some family/friends/strangers judging and laughing at me. I moved passed that because I knew/know what God asked me to do.
My lane is speaking from my experiences, my heart and the root/goal for me is always helping women LEARN themselves. Who are you sis?
That’s the goal for me... to open your eyes by presenting you with options the generations before us didn’t have and/or know about.
Because if you heighten your awareness of YOU, you’ll know exactly what is right for YOU and that becomes your superpower and it’s glorious over here.
With love & wisdom
Reka J. Robinson